It’s like SUPER BOWL SUNDAY but with less spandex, less power outages, and lower wages.
First, I’d like to talk about the Steubenville rape case verdicts.
In case you don’t know, this is the case in Ohio in a Big Red football town where, according to media reports, high school football players have been given great allowances and a culture of “do what you want” supported them. Last year at a house party, at least two but several more of these football players molested, abused, humiliated, debased, and raped a passed out 16 year old girl. They filmed it on their phones, took photos, and spent the rest of the weekend sharing those photos, laughing about it online, and texting each other about how awesome it was when they fucked with “the dead girl” they kept calling her.
Because hey didn’t you know? That’s cool these days. (THIS IS SARCASM).
The girl saw the photos and videos, charges were brought, and two of the boys were found guilty of rape on Sunday morning in a highly publicized trial. A grand jury is still in effect to find out if more charges will be brought against the other people who participated, saw this happen, or who otherwise did not prevent it from happening.
But, in a horrible persistent example of rape culture existing everywhere, the media felt bad for the two boys who will be listed as sex offenders and will do jail time. Because their lives were “ruined” and their ‘promising football careers were over”. Because you know, poor rapists.
The equation is simple. If you rape someone, it’s your fault. No one else’s. You ruined your victim’s life, and your own. No one else did. The victim didn’t ruin it by coming forward. Your friend didn’t ruin it by texting you about it. Your other friend didn’t ruin it by putting the video on Youtube. Anonymous didn’t ruin it by blasting it to the moon and back. You raped. You are a rapist. This is your fault.
That doesn’t mean we can’t feel sorry for the boys (and I do) but there’s a difference between feeling sorry for them and being rape apologists like the alphabet soup news agencies did. Their lives aren’t ruined because of social media, cellphones, or a judge. Their lives are ruined because they raped someone.
Here’s further reading
On Rapes, Cages, and the Steubenville Verdict from Black Girl Dangerous
The Victim’s Life is Threatened on Social Media
The Steubenville Rape Verdict and Why You Should Hate CNN by the Thought Catalog
MOVING ON (but not really because I can’t even express my levels of anger right now. Rape culture really gets me on my soapbox. I might write more this week about this because hey, it’s my blog. I do what I want.)
I mentioned a little bit ago that a group of us who participated in Susan Dennard’s #BAMFWordBattle(s) on Twitter made a writing group. I like to call us the #MTWBWY group. It stands for May The Words Be With You and the hashtag is necessary because Twitter and Susan brought us together. Obviously. So far, so good! Three partners have looked at my first chapter and given me great and helpful feedback. AND my first page (pre partner edits) was chosen for YA Confidental’s Teen First Page Critique. I LOVED their feedback and it was really helpful. So thanks to those teens who gave solid, helpful, constructive advice.
Tonight I have SSWG (Super Scary Writing Group) which is the in person group. I need to finish my first chapter revisions and go upstairs to print them out soon enough. Eek. I’m pretty nervous about this. Non-YA readers/writers giving feedback on a YA WIP? This could be awesome, or it could be terrible. I’m anxious about it.
And now for my TOP TEN TUESDAY…books I’ve bought but haven’t read yet.
1. Homeland by Cory Doctorow. I’m REALLY excited about this book, I swear, and I bought it the day it came out. 6 weeks ago. Honestly, the reason it is on the backburner is that if it’s anything like Little Brother, the amount of thought it will require is more than I have in my brain right now. Really need to get to it though because again, if it is anything like Little Brother, it’s also going to be an incredibly IMPORTANT book.
2. Jellicoe Road by Melina Marchetta –this is embarrassing because just about everyone says it’s one of the best YA novels of all times. And I have it. It’s just…not open yet.
3. A Natural History of Dragons by Marie Brennan–I’ve started, but haven’t finished, and not because it isn’t good. I just…brain…I haven’t been reading as much as I should lately. Sigh.
4. Anansi Boys by Neil Gaiman–the ONLY Gaiman book I haven’t read. Seriously. What a terrible fangirl I am.
5. Wuthering Heights –one day, one day, one day. I mean, I need to, right? I’ll probably love it. But I bought it and it’s pretty and I still haven’t read it. Sigh.
6. Going Bovine by Libba Bray –yep. I admit it. I haven’t read it. I need to move it off the shelf and onto the windowsill next to my bed because I only ever look at it and think “OH RIGHT” whenever I’m looking for a different book on my shelves.
7. Home by Toni Morrison — I love everything she writes, so I’m not sure why I haven’t gotten to this one yet.
Huh. Usually I read everything I buy…I swear. I just don’t have the income to not read everything I buy. Still trying to think of something else on my shelves that I haven’t read yet that I need to read…
Revisions are eating my brain this last week but as I plow through, I think of blogging topics, so hopefully we’ll be back to active again 🙂